Managing Your Emotions

Updated: Mar 2

Emotions are energy in motion, moving through the body, that need to be felt and released as needed. Feelings are what‘s happening whilst the energy of an emotion is flowing i.e. the physiological sensation of an emotion. For example, you may feel constriction or heaviness in the chest when sad, tightness in the jaw or hands when angry and light and floaty when happy or joyful.

Fear, resentment, and tension usually result in the contraction of muscles and energy, whereas happiness, joy, and calm result in the expansion of muscles and energy.

While emotions may feel draining at times, they are necessary. One of the most basic examples is that we need to feel fear to stop us doing dangerous things. We need to feel happiness to be able to enjoy life. The more you resist and judge an emotion, the more intense and unpleasant it can become, causing and creating emotional phobia. Resisting emotions can also cause excessive thinking, shallow breathing and muscle tension, which can all contribute to disease and illness. That’s why it is better to accept, release or integrate emotions, which can help transform them into personal growth and resilience.

We can’t control our emotions until we begin to understand them and we can only do that by bringing awareness to them. This helps us see them in a different perspective. Bringing awareness to our emotions can help:

  • Reduce anxiety and depression

  • Enhance relationships

  • Increase self esteem and resilience

  • Improve decision making

  • Manage stress

  • Relax and sleep better

  • Be more productive

One meditation myth is that meditation is used to block or repress emotions or thoughts. Sitting still for long periods, can bring up strong thoughts, feelings and emotions, as you are not distracted by “doing” and being busy.

By sitting in relaxation with an open heart we can bring awareness to our feelings, allowing them to unfold as needed. Here are some ways in which you can work with emotions in meditation:

  1. Focus on something like your breathing (i.e. mindfulness meditation) to lessen the intensity of the emotion.

  2. Sit and be aware of what physical sensations arise with the emotion.

  3. Try acknowledging and allowing the emotion rather than trying to fix it.

  4. Avoid judging your emotions or getting connected to your thoughts about them, or the story that came with them.

  5. Naming your emotions in the third person can help lessen the emphasis, e.g. there is anger in the belly, there is sadness in the chest rather than using “I am angry” or “I am sad” which can emphasise the feeling more.

  6. Cry if you need to, or go for a walk to allow the energy to shift and release – it is much easier to still your mind once any feelings have been given the attention they need.

  7. Try moving up a few spots on the scale of emotions rather than trying to get from feeling something like grief to something like joy in one sitting. For example try going from worry to boredom. Refer to a copy of the Scale of Emotions (from Abraham Hicks) on my website to see the different levels.

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